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Please do not suffer in silence, it is not weak to seek help, it takes real courage to face our vulnerability.....

Why is anxiety so debilitating....

Anxiety is a fear response, anxiety can be so debilitating for many reasons and in so many ways, all of which can negatively impact both your mental and physical health.

Your physiological response to anxiety will likely trigger your body's "fight, flight, or freeze" instinct. Subsequently, with your anxiety you may experience physical symptoms such as an increased heart rate, rapid breathing, palpitations, dry mouth, muscle tension, sweating, or uncontrollable shaking. Leaving you with an overall feeling of distress, panic, uncertainty, and dis-ease, and in a heightened state of hypervigilance.

Psychologically anxiety often manifests itself as excessive worry and rumination, the fear of something in the future or repercussions from something in the past. You may experience intrusive and distressing thoughts, limiting beliefs, and a vicious spiral of negative thinking. This constant mental activity can be exhausting, it can impair your concentration, decision-making, and problem-solving capabilities.

Anxiety can have a debilitating impact on your daily functioning, effecting your levels of concentration, attention, and energy. Thereby limiting your ability to perform routine tasks at work or at home, and limiting your ability to maintain and develop relationships.


Disrupting sleep patterns, insomnia and other sleep disturbances can exacerbate feelings of fatigue, irritability, and cognitive impairment, making it even more challenging to cope with daily challenges.

Unresolved long-term or chronic anxiety may lead to sustained and elevated levels of stress hormones. Prolonged exposure to stress can have detrimental effects on physical health, including an increased risk of cardiovascular problems, digestive issues, and weakened immune function.

Why should men talk about their mental health....

By openly discussing their mental health, men can help break the stigma surrounding mental health issues. This can encourage others to seek help without feeling ashamed or judged.


Sharing their experiences can help men build supportive relationships with friends, family, or mental health professionals, creating a strong support network that can provide comfort and guidance during difficult times.


Expressing emotions and discussing mental health challenges can promote emotional well-being and foster a better understanding of one's own mental state. This can lead to improved self-awareness and help in developing healthy coping mechanisms.


Talking about mental health can prevent the adoption of harmful coping strategies such as substance abuse or other risky behaviours that may temporarily alleviate symptoms but can exacerbate mental health issues in the long run.


Open communication about mental health can reduce the risk of suicide, as it encourages individuals to seek help before reaching a crisis point. Creating an environment where men feel comfortable discussing their emotions and seeking support can save lives.


Addressing mental health concerns can have a positive impact on overall health and well-being. Mental and physical health are interconnected, and taking care of one's mental health can contribute to better physical health and vice versa.

Encouraging open dialogue and providing safe spaces for men to discuss their mental health without fear of judgment or ridicule is crucial in promoting overall well-being and fostering healthier, more fulfilling lives.

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It takes courage to be vulnerable.... 

It takes courage for men to be vulnerable due to societal expectations and gender norms that often dictate how men should behave. From an early age, many boys are socialised to believe that showing vulnerability is a sign of weakness, and they are often encouraged to display traits such as emotional restraint, stoicism, and self-reliance. As a result, many men grow up believing that expressing emotions or seeking help is not acceptable or is a threat to their masculinity.

Additionally, there is often a fear of being stigmatised or judged by others, including friends, family, and peers, if they express vulnerability. This fear can be deeply ingrained and may prevent men from opening up about their struggles or seeking support when needed.

Furthermore, the lack of positive role models who openly express vulnerability in a healthy and constructive manner can make it challenging for men to feel comfortable doing the same. The pressure to conform to traditional notions of masculinity can create a barrier to vulnerability, making it difficult for men to embrace and express their true emotions.

However, it's important to recognise that vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but rather a display of strength and courage.


By allowing themselves to be vulnerable, men can foster deeper connections, build healthier relationships, and experience personal growth and emotional well-being. Encouraging a shift in societal attitudes toward vulnerability and redefining masculinity to include emotional openness and authenticity can help create a more inclusive and supportive environment for men to express themselves without fear of judgment or ridicule.

"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced" - James Baldwin

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"It always seems impossible until it is done" - Nelson Mandela

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